You are NOT alone, ever, as most moms are at their wits end! I know I suck at parenting, but didn’t know until I had a kid. She is slightly challenged more in terms of reading and comprehension. I hate being a mother but I love my kids but don’t like them but I couldn’t imagine anything happening to them…like I wish I would wake up and it was all a dream ,that would be lovely, the first thing I’d do is tie my tubes. It was determined the person was a fraud. After years of therapists, and hard work, Evan had limited, basic speech, could dress and take care of his toileting needs. Its kind of scary for me to think of quitting (as much as I desperately want to). It can take months, not just a few days, and with some of the treatments you will have to put in time and work. But I do know that I am reaching my breaking point faster these days and I don’t like it. My son needs a strong parent. So please proceed with caution. And things are going to continue to suck for a little while. Regular examinations, teeth cleanings, and vaccinations are vital to preventing disease and keeping your pet in good physical health. I just can’t take living in this world anymore. it's destorying me. Eventually the thread turned toward people trying to send gift cards to the OP. Two more weeks till school and not surw if Im.going to make it! Im sure its all my fault and blah blah but I try SO hard to be nice and fun. Who would care if I where dead not like anyone were really my friends they just put up with me. A Day in Motherhood - Copyright: 2010-Current    |, 3 Reasons Your Christmas Wish List Might Be Useless, My Brother is One of the Many Heroes at Home & My Personal Hero. (((HUGS))). But keep this in mind. Ladies… ugh!! She wants to connect with her readers through honest and engaging posts! At least, I did when I had little ones like you do. I can’t take it anymore. 15 comments. He is the biggest nuisance EVER. What is it that you can't afford for you child? But where did I go wrong! 515 515. Yet of the over 400,000 children in the care of the child welfare system nationally, one out of seven (nearly 57,000) has been placed in a group home or institution. I am actually happy with my life now, I have my hands full with just me. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment :) We are here if you need us! Write a real freaking article for her!!! I do everything u mentioned except the story circle, my children will not be content lol…. thank you! Thanks ladies. If it did then our prisons would not be filled with these supposed religious people. It makes me sick that people like you think that the only way to be a good person is to be Christian. Google and reach out to the location closest to you. I can never tell what will trigger him. We have a 5 month old puppy who is the size of a small lab dog. I Can't Take My High Stress Job Anymore! I hope things settled down and you found some time for you! My parents gave me all sorts of speeches about growing old with no one to care for me. I think I’d rather die than live to see how fucked up my kids going to be from having me for a mother. He got the worst day ever. Please keep in touch and come join me on my FB page. I believe that it is not fair to have children when you can not support them. If your parent is not safe at home, and you can't arrange for 24 hour care, then it may be time for assisted living. I am quick to place all blame on my significant other. That's emotional extortion ….. We’ve all done it. If your dog has an ongoing health problem, or has suddenly developed a medical issue, you’ll know how expensive vet bills can be. If so, does it offer marriage counseling or daycare? ((((hugs))))). I Need to Rehome My Cat. I can't do it anymore I have an 8 year old and a 3 year old, I am 24 years old and I just can't cope anymore. If your dog has an ongoing health problem, or has suddenly developed a medical issue, you’ll know how expensive vet bills can be. Find more Motherhood Posts at My Recent Writings, Like A Day in Motherhood on Facebook and Subscribe to A Day in Motherhood. Just that pressure alone can be overwhelming! People like you, ‘holier than thou’, are what’s wrong with this country. The calls are endless: I can’t keep my cat because my husband is allergic. Let's not posit this argument about the future's child well-being whether he'll be in a good school, receiving a good education and being well fed. It didnt end the way i wanted it to or expected it to. Because we are out! I really wish I didn’t exist, I’m buried and tired, Oh man girls..so glad I found this I’m so isolated and I’m desperate to have some sort of forum to vent to. There are four kids total and they make me long for a heart attack just so I wont have to get through another day. Search   of yourself too. Others can help with that and I hope you do reach out! I hate my life. I don’t feel like I have it in me for the last leg of this journey. i know i am going to be judged, but i cant function anymore. OK, but that is a good one… so 6 Things to do If You Don’t Want to Parent Anymore. I really don’t see why people voluntarily chose this path of life. Days when you scream until your voice cracks. So make sure to check your policy if you are struggling to pay for your dog’s care. Other parents may worry that they’ll be less able to provide adequate care as they age and develop disabilities of their own. Btw: any suggestions on how to stop my son from cussing so much wld be greatly appreciated.. and any ideas on how to make all 5 of my kids less assholish plz plz plz help ya girl out…. Anna1212 08/01/2019. Then I’m ready to put on my “big girl pants” on. This is a great post, and something I really needed! I know I can not be alone. The Rumor: Children should always care for their aging parents Our relationship with our elders can be complex, and sometimes we still carry the burden of familial resentments long past. Lori is a single work from home mom of three daughters, ages 11, 10 and 8. My parents never had to help me with my homework, but my son needs a lot of help. But we have ALL been there!!! I was a much happier person when they were gone. Had you actually been there for him after age 7 maybe he would have more respect. I have a 3 year old red eared slider. Im here now… im sitting @ the table and I’m looking around at my disaster of a house in tears.. Did i mention the dogs are both barking at absolutely nothing like always, my crazy sister that mumbles and talks to herself is here, my brother just showed up and is sitting on the couch talking on his hone in his ridiculouslyloud booming voice (oh and its on speaker phone, y 3 little ones 10,8, & 6 are throwing punches and screaming over the video game chairs.. I’m losing it and frankly I just want to walk out and let them all handle everything on their own.. i want to run away!!! This is interspersed with patches of time when he is loving, creative, funny and smart. Your child will be properly cared for while you take the steps to better your personal circumstances. Nearly 11,000 of those children are younger than 13. (26 Posts) Add message | Report. To expect your child to understand and care about your feelings when he or she disobeys you is a sign that you’re over–personalizing the behavior. Everything is guilt. Run to neverland , where all dreams come... 4/10/2020. But once I get out and I walk and they ride bikes or we all walk or one walks and the other three complain, it’s OK! I can’t afford summer camp and my husband doesn’t trust babysitters. I feel so alone and isolated. Commit to change and start on your way to recovery. please find a nice apartment for yourdelf, and leave us alone now. None of my friends are willing to take it. In my case everything I do is voluntary: it's not the same as the extreme pressure you're under. I can’t afford summer camp and my husband doesn’t trust babysitters. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. i feel that i can not anylonger meet his needs and he is destroying our lives!! We are all here for you too! Who would care if I where dead not like anyone were really my friends they just put up with me. If you are unable to remember to take care of your pet's basic healthcare needs, then seeking help is important. Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore, Re:Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore. I don't know how many times I had to chase him out of the garbage yesterday, he seems to think it's his personal eating bowl. I can’t take it anymore quarentine SUCKS. On the other hand, a refusal to assume parental responsibility (RAPR) is a voluntary relinquishment of a child into state custody. Can Afford My Dog’s Veterinary Care Anymore. Thank you for your realistic tips. 0. Just know that you are not alone! I’m so glad its not just me. That’s on you lady and not his lack of belief in God. Good tips, but I’m beyond some of them. You are NOT ALONE!! They are just different, we’ll say. Whatever the reason, no need to feel guilty. You have a strong burden to be both parents, in a sense, to the little child. I appreciate the advice. I take care of my mother mostly by myself, she's reached a later stage of dementia and I no longer can safely care for her. But when the time comes that I can no longer help her I know a nursing home will be the best place for her to be. i dont have the heart to ask him to leave but if he doesnt then he is going to destroy whats ledft of the once happy family we used to be. With some effort, you can find him a loving new home. Op, what exactly is it that you are in need of? Many people struggle, especially with an unpredictable child. Your spouse isn't able obviously to be a husband to you or a father to the children. A court won’t usually make decisions about a child who's 16 or older. thanks . I was hoping to be able to throw her a baby shower and at least buy her something for the wedding. I’m tired. He suffered a brain injury shortly after he was born and it became apparent pretty quickly that he was going to be seriously disabled, physically and cognitively. Because I can get into it – just as anyone can – and things can and will happen during that moment when I am engrossed. However, after 5 years I can't suppress my physical and emotional needs anymore. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. I finished primary school a few says ago (P7) and am moving to big school soon. My kids, at around 3, also made huge messes and I never thought it would end. They all three sit, content with the attention they probably were striving for anyway with their bad behavior, and listen quietly for as long as it takes. This really did a number on me mentally since I had to watch my mom deteriorate each day until she passed away. Much love and HUGS!!! So it can be frustrating when your child doesn't seem to care about the consequences given. Related posts . I'm also moving to an apartment and the won't allow ANY pets. i disagreeee, as much as i love him and wanted him to come and live with us, our lives have been turned upside down because of it, and i just vcant take it anymore. It is just so hard sometimes. This really did a number on me mentally since I had to watch my mom deteriorate each day until she passed away. Hi friends! i don't know what to do. Pet insurance can help to cover certain medical expenses. Kids rally with each other to form a united front and the tug of war of debate and consequence begins. So please PLEASE get that out of your head. I don’t even know how to begin to make a change. I had to drop out of college at the time, but was happy to do so to take care of my … They’re so unappreciative and so spoiled, they’re so messy and lazy and they don’t listen until I yell, they constantly fight with each other and they constantly yell and cry and yell and fight and cry …over and over and over again. I don’t want to play with them, I did not think that I had to, my mom never did, I played with my sisters. Anna1212 08/04/2019. Just as you can’t control your child, he can’t control you either. I raised my kids and took care of my mom on hospice until she passed. They are great young men. Four kids….10,5,3 and 4 months. It is important to get the help that you need. He has trouble organizing his thoughts, communicating with others, and knowing where he is or what time it is. My husband and child both have OCD and anxiety, and he’s paranoid as well. We plan on changing the lives of a few of them through adoption. But we all have to know that our kids NEED us even if we can’t see it from all the pain and stress in our lives. They are rude as hell and one has told his sibling he doesn’t like me. Technical Support provided by: Coupon Dad and Lucky Dad Media. It got to me and I felt bad for being short with my oldest, but I have to give myself a break and start again fresh tomorrow. Like I don’t have any friends, and I can’t talk to my mom about my feelings or she just gets mad. And for me, it gives me time to do something in motherhood that gets lost in the work, the chores, the bills and life… I get to look at my beautiful angels loving time with me. Wish me luck. I've said a good bit and perhaps too much, but I do know that you need to take care of yourself now and find your own happiness in the little one who has Down's Syndrome. I remember the moderator (Jeff?) Let's not posit this argument about the future's child well-being whether he'll be in a good school, receiving a good education and being well fed. Now what? What did I do! Daycare? It would be nice if your son would grow up and take the responsibility of raising his own children. oP has options even if they aren't great. The reason you got excited about new shoes – my kids do too, by the way – is because you read your moms cues and learned that it IS an exciting thing. If you can’t take much more of your child with special needs … If you googled “I can’t take much more of my child with special needs,” I’m giving you an internet hug. saying this. But I have been there so long (10 years) I can't imagine working anywhere else. Conclusion. Between three young kids, the phone, the dog – who by the way has not figured out that barking at a squirrel 50 feet up in a tree is a totally useless activity – and the voices in my head, the noise is completely overwhelming! Including me!! Parenting is H A R D! I have a nine yr old and I love her and being a mother, but I hate being a mom when it’s not going well I’ve learned. For example, a 52-year-old man suffers a brain injury in a serious car accident. Well I will say after reading some of these comments I feel like a jerk. I thought I would love parenting and be a good parent. I really want to throw my entire life in the trash can. My cat doesn’t like my new boyfriend. This world is crap so what’s the point anymore. That’s tough. Who is a person that can't even take care of her children and provide for them. If Caregiver Stress Gets Too Overwhelming. Until I read it all. It is part of it all. You can't just give her up. he was taken from me by my parents at age 7 and was raised by then, now since he has returned at 18 he thinks he knows what best fo me and my now decent family. I lost my job & I can't support him anymore. If I wasn’t a responsible person with a husband who is not completely well, I’d get on the next flight to Mexico and never come back. It sounds to me like you adore your kids, hence the snuggling, but are overwhelmed with the 24/7 process. A stubborn child meets a determined rule. And my husband because he has testicles expects to be the provider, even though my starting pay is 3-4 dollars higher than his maxed out pay at his entry level job. 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