An open letter to those grandparents whose children have chosen to become foster parents. May God heal your babies, so they can grow up to be as amazing as their mom and dad are! Until God tells you otherwise, or He leads you to that specific one…. People make cruel comments about that as well, and I’ve recently lost a friendship because someone who proclaims her Christian status and who knows our history told me it is “weird” that I would continue to be a teacher without having kids myself, and that we should *just* adopt. As an adoptive parent this letter saddens me. By. May it encourage other adoptive or foster moms in their unique challenges as parents! Straight From The Heart is a thrift store that's part of the North San Diego County Foster Parents Association. Please don’t kiss us. I don’t think of them as adopted children though, I feel that they are my children and sometimes forget about the whole adoption part of it until someone mentions it. Thank you for the time and extra expenses you have put into helping these children have a … By the way, doctors are not always right. Who adopted “regular” children. But rest assured you will gain so much by being these children’s Mama. #fostercare. I wasn’t adopted until I was 16 years old though. Thank you for sharing this story. Thank you again. This was amazing, beautiful and heartbreaking to read! 2020 has been a hard year. Don’t treat us like we are saints – we aren’t! To me I just look at them and say I haven’t done anything, God has answered my prayers and given me the children that He wanted me to have. You deserve nothing but honor and respect. Even my own friends gave me blank stares and offered up what little wisdom they could-usually in the form of a horror story from a friend in my situation. We may not be the mommas we had dreamed of, but I believe we’re being made into something more and something far better. My adopted children were embraced and still others forget they are adopted. She calls me on Sundays to tell me about her week; she calls me Mom. Bless you Mama for loving on the least of these. You see, as foster parents, my clients occupy rarefied space, without precise legal definition. If it’s any consolation, negativity can be just as strong when you have biological children. Do I love truly unconditionally? I was in every treated as if I were there biological child. What caught my attention though was the way people can dismiss a child as just an inconvenience or a problem. God bless this woman and her family. I may not have held them as infants, but God did. I know He sees you and walks with you every step of the ways, guiding you and sustaining you with His grace. An Open Letter to Birth Parents from Foster Parents. My heart goes out to you all. We are blessed to come along side to assist when asked but love the grandparenting roles we have. Homemade Lactation Cookies: Boost Your Milk Production! The National Foster Parent Association is a champion for the thousands of families that open their hearts and their homes to the over 400,000 children in out-of-home placement in the US. What you do is enough, you are amazing to live in this world. So goes the expression, and one that I have often suggested as a mantra for foster parents in their dealings with their Department of Social Services (DSS) caseworker. While his situation was a tough one due to the background history, the Kassem's were determined to give baby E all the love and care he deserved. We also adopted, and I brought a son to my 2nd marriage. No one was excited when she joined our family. It takes a lot to become foster parent. As parents we feel we have been successful since our kids all finished high school, have left home, and have made lives for themselves. are different, but I very much relate to your heart. These are words that must be shared. 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